I met the most amazing man! Less than 2 weeks later we were living together - I know I know - but if you saw us together - we were so on the same page! His son from his marriage has ADD/ADHD/ODD/CAPS and who knows what else - needless to say he is a very very challenging little 6 year old boy.........so my boyfriend went to a walk in clinic and gave a list of symptoms to the doctor and explained his son has all these things - maybe he did too - the doctor whipped out a pad and gave him dex! No tests or anything - so for the last 3 months of our 10 month relationship my boyfriend has decided he has ADD or ADHA and is self medicating with this doctor - who now has him on - concerta.............

- Its like talking to a brick wall
- cold no emotion
- no interest in talking to me or ''planning' anything with me
- gets very agitated if I talk about anything more than a day ahead
- all of a sudden in taking swimming lessons - running - and biking - training for a triathlon?
- adding his new female clients to face book and having friendships where they go out together
- telling me he feels sad and empty therefore I must have done something because he trusts his 'gut' and it made him think I cheated or did something I shouldn't have

I cry and tell him i don't feel like we are connected and I don't feel like he loves me - he literally sits there and looks at me with a blank stare and when I ask him if hes not going to say something to try to make me feel better he says - all cold like - of course I love - don't be silly. !!!!!!

I think he lies to me all the time because so much of what he says doesn't make any sense - the time lines and sequences don't add up - he seems to have NO empathy or sympathy at all anymore - its like I'm dating someone completely different! I hate it!

This is going to sound so bad but I think I liked him better before the medicine - but he feels better with it - so Im trying really hard to understand what is the ADD or ADHA what is not - I don't want to get mad at him for stuff he cant help and yet i cant help thinking ""wtf how can someone not help doing these things over and over!!!"
How can i know how to be in a relationship with someone who has a sickness I cannot see or understand??

Seriously loosing my mind - questioning myself now - HELP!?!?!?!?