I have been dating my bf, who has ADD, for the last eight months. He is an amazing guy and we have a lot in common. He is takin Adderall but he does not take his full dosage unless he really needs to focous for a project at his job or on a test. He loves me and never means to hurt me, but often times he forgets important events with me, doesn't understand my feelings when I try to explain them and brushes them off, and can be self-centered. He uses ADD as an excuse for how he acts.

However, when he takes his full dosage, he realizes how much he hurts me emotionally, and gives me the emotional assurance I need. He is much more caring. But he also says that he is more anti-social and less "himself" when he is on the medication. He also loses all sex drive which is an important part of a relationship as well.

I am at wits end. I don't know how to be supportive and still not get hurt in the process. What can I do and what can he do? He's tried Ritalin and Wellbutrin and they both have not worked on him. Adderall has been his best choice so far.